So yesterday was my
birthday (no need to wish, i hate formalities ;))
The
word ¨Birthday¨ itself comes with a lot of expectations like family
celebrations or spending time with someone special and everyone giving you
special treatment, more love and more care. The ideal picture shows lots of happiness,
love and fun.
While over the years for me it only got worse, I get
birthday blues and knowing once again some big tragedy would be happening and there will be nothing like happiness forget about
celebration. Year by year those expectations were thrown into garbage, till I was
the one not even remembering my own birthday. As I moved away which was not very
much different due to my pretty lonely life, those fake smiles turned into fake
smileys with one line wishes, ¨Happy birthday, party hard or have a blast¨. The
more I hated these phrases more I took a back seat in wishing people with
similar fake shit.
I don´t think i know
anyone who hates their birthday but I do. It is the most haunting day in my
life while 100 people ask me same question ¨what are my plans? ¨, i am holding
my sadness, anger and so much inside and trying to be polite by saying nothing
special. It doesn´t stop there they try to barge in with free advice and
comments like why not, it is your day, you should party and have fun, why are you
sad on such a beautiful day and so on. I am not sorry to say that yes I am sad
and I don´t think I owe you any answer for that. Do people even realize that it
has been a whole year and we haven´t talked and today you give me wishes on the
name of bloody formality. What makes you think I care anymore? Every
year same story and with each birthday it felt worse, not because I don’t like
getting old which I surprisingly love but it was just hard answering those
stupid questions. But yesterday was a little different.
I woke up with my phone filled with some honest
while rest of the fake shit. Deeply, I would wish for this day to never exist or I just don´t want to be depressed again. I kept pushing myself in my
head it is just a normal day. Soon early morning phone call from mom gave me my
first wishes while some people wish me like they are even ashamed of telling me
happy birthday. I started my day like every day, did my chanting where I cried
and let go of the pain and soon I got ready while left my phone on charging. I
went on with my morning chores and left for my bus and suddenly my phone beeps
and I was reminded again that it was the big day. I realized how easy it is
that I no more remember it, how peaceful life is without those expectations
from the childhood stories. I started my day at work, some wished and some
neglected but I was okay. It had no more effect on as I knew soon it will be
over. I ended my day on planning for the week ahead, meal prepping and finally another
Buddhism meeting at my home. Everyone acted normal as no one knew it was the D-Day.
I slipped into bed, read for some time and I was in my awe that how it was like
just another day with no drama, no expectation. I guess it´s good to have a
past where expectations were never met. As yesterday, I was okay just being me
and living my normal life with no one special or anything special about me or
the day. I was genuinely at peace as I know who I am and I am perfectly fine
with it and I have no desire to hold onto the vision of life which rest of the
world is holding.
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